{"id":9264,"date":"2026-11-09T00:27:27","date_gmt":"2026-11-09T07:27:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/novus2.com\/righteouscause\/?p=9264"},"modified":"2026-11-09T00:42:09","modified_gmt":"2026-11-09T07:42:09","slug":"before-the-coffee-cools-a-morning-checklist-for-a-life-that-glorifies-god","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/novus2.com\/righteouscause\/2026\/11\/09\/before-the-coffee-cools-a-morning-checklist-for-a-life-that-glorifies-god\/","title":{"rendered":"Before the Coffee Cools: A Morning Checklist for a Life That Glorifies God"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-large wp-image-9265\" src=\"https:\/\/novus2.com\/righteouscause\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/11\/Before-The-Coffee-Cools-1024x687.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"640\" height=\"429\" srcset=\"https:\/\/novus2.com\/righteouscause\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/11\/Before-The-Coffee-Cools-1024x687.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/novus2.com\/righteouscause\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/11\/Before-The-Coffee-Cools-300x201.jpg 300w, https:\/\/novus2.com\/righteouscause\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/11\/Before-The-Coffee-Cools-150x101.jpg 150w, https:\/\/novus2.com\/righteouscause\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/11\/Before-The-Coffee-Cools-768x516.jpg 768w, https:\/\/novus2.com\/righteouscause\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/11\/Before-The-Coffee-Cools-850x571.jpg 850w, https:\/\/novus2.com\/righteouscause\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/11\/Before-The-Coffee-Cools.jpg 1168w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><em>The Preflight Inspection of the Soul<\/em><\/p>\n<p align=\"center\"><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2767 \u2726 \u2767<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #000080;\"><b>Lost by Inches<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Most Christians do not lose their witness in a single dramatic fall. They lose it by inches: a curt word to a cashier, a lane stolen on the freeway at 7:40 in the morning, a neighbor whose name we never bothered to learn, a brother\u2019s need quietly overlooked because the week was busy. The great battles of discipleship are rarely fought in the sanctuary. They are fought in the parking lot, the break room, the checkout line, and the text thread.<\/p>\n<p>That is why a morning checklist can be such a sharp spiritual tool. Pilots do not skip the preflight inspection because they have flown before, and surgeons do not skip the instrument count because they are experienced. <span style=\"color: #800000;\"><strong>The checklist exists because ordinary days are where catastrophic failures hide.<\/strong><\/span> Billy Graham, introducing his ten guidelines for Christian living, reminded readers that the Bible describes the Christian life as one of constant growth. Growth of that kind is either tended each morning or neglected by default.<\/p>\n<p>What follows is not a ladder of works by which we climb up to God. Scripture is plain that we are saved by grace through faith, \u201cnot of works, lest any man should boast\u201d (Ephesians 2:8\u20139). It is the very next verse that gives this checklist its warrant: \u201cFor we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them\u201d (Ephesians 2:10). The boxes below are not a scorecard for earning favor; they are a lamp for walking in good works God has already prepared. Check them with gratitude, not anxiety. Leave a box empty with honesty, not despair. And let every one of them point you back to Christ.<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #000080;\"><b>How to Use This Checklist<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Read one or two sections each morning with your Bible open, and pray the words of Psalm 139:23\u201324 before you begin: \u201cSearch me, O God, and know my heart.\u201d Choose the boxes that fit the day ahead: the commute, the meeting, the errand, the visit. In the evening, return to the page and mark what God enabled you to do. What looks like recording an accomplishment is really recording grace.<\/p>\n<p>If you want a single anchor verse for the whole exercise, take the passage that OpenBible.info\u2019s readers have voted the most helpful on daily Christian living, Romans 12:1\u20132: present your bodies \u201ca living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God,\u201d and \u201cbe not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind.\u201d Every section below is simply an application of those two verses to a different corner of the week.<\/p>\n<p align=\"center\"><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2767 \u2726 \u2767<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #000080;\"><b>1. Seek First the Kingdom: The Morning Watch<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #800000;\"><b>Matthew 6:33 \u00b7 Luke 9:23 \u00b7 Psalm 5:3<\/b><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Everything else on this list flows from this first category, or it does not flow at all. Jesus did not tell His disciples to seek the kingdom eventually, but <i>first<\/i> (Matthew 6:33), and He called them to take up the cross <i>daily<\/i> (Luke 9:23). Graham\u2019s first guideline is to read the Bible daily, and he warned against skimming a chapter merely to satisfy the conscience. The benefit is not information alone but orientation. A heart that has heard from God before it hears from the world walks into the day already steadied.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201c\u2026<i>God first, others second, self third.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\">\u2014 <span style=\"font-size: small;\"><b>Billy Graham, \u201cIn His Own Words: Billy Graham on Living the Christian Life,\u201d Billy Graham Library<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I read Scripture this morning slowly enough to hear it, not merely to finish it.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I prayed through today\u2019s calendar (meetings, errands, appointments) by name.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I confessed known sin and received God\u2019s forgiveness (1 John 1:9).<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I asked the Holy Spirit for strength before I needed it.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I surrendered one specific worry to God (Philippians 4:6\u20137).<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I settled the order of the day: God first, others second, self third.<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #000080;\"><b>2. Whatsoever Ye Do: Employment and Daily Work<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #800000;\"><b>Colossians 3:23\u201324 \u00b7 1 Corinthians 10:31 \u00b7 Ephesians 6:6\u20138<\/b><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Most believers spend a third of their waking lives at work, and Scripture refuses to treat those hours as spiritually neutral: \u201cWhatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men\u201d (Colossians 3:23). The employee who arrives on time, tells the truth on the timesheet, and does excellent work when no supervisor is watching preaches a sermon few pulpits can match. The spiritual benefit is freedom. When the Lord is your true Employer, a harsh boss cannot steal your joy, and a promotion cannot inflate your pride.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201c<i>The time of business does not with me differ from the time of prayer; and in the noise and clatter of my kitchen, while several persons are at the same time calling for different things, I possess God in as great tranquillity as if I were upon my knees.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\">\u2014 <span style=\"font-size: small;\"><b>Brother Lawrence, The Practice of the Presence of God (17th century)<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>The Dutch theologian and statesman Abraham Kuyper put the same truth in public terms. In his 1880 address on sphere sovereignty, he insisted that there is no compartment of life, the office and the shop floor included, that falls outside the claim of Christ.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201c<i>There is not a square inch \u2026 over which Christ \u2026 does not cry: \u2018Mine!\u2019\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\">\u2014 <span style=\"font-size: small;\"><b>Abraham Kuyper, \u201cSphere Sovereignty\u201d (1880)<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will give an honest day\u2019s work, whether or not anyone is watching.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will not pad hours, shade the truth, or take credit that belongs to someone else.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will speak well of my employer and coworkers and refuse gossip in the break room.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will treat the customer, client, or caller in front of me as someone made in God\u2019s image.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will pray silently for one coworker by name.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will offer the tedious parts of my work, too, as worship (1 Corinthians 10:31).<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #000080;\"><b>3. Love Thy Neighbour: Strangers, Neighbors, and Everyday Conversation<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #800000;\"><b>Luke 10:27\u201337 \u00b7 Colossians 4:5\u20136 \u00b7 1 Peter 3:15<\/b><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>When a lawyer asked Jesus, \u201cAnd who is my neighbour?\u201d the answer was a story about a stranger lying beside a road (Luke 10:29\u201337). Neighbor-love in Scripture is not limited to the people we would have chosen. It includes the man next door whose bumper sticker irritates us, the server who brought the wrong order, and the stranger beside us at the pharmacy counter. <em>Verse By Verse Ministry<\/em> compares believers to ambassadors posted on foreign soil: we remain among unbelievers precisely so that we can represent Christ\u2019s kingdom to them. The benefit is open doors. People who have been treated with unexpected kindness tend to ask where it came from.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201c<i>We witness in two ways: by life and by word.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\">\u2014 <span style=\"font-size: small;\"><b>Billy Graham, \u201c10 Guidelines for Christian Living,\u201d Billy Graham Library (from Peace with God)<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u201c<i>Do not waste time bothering whether you \u201clove\u201d your neighbour; act as if you did.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\">\u2014 <span style=\"font-size: small;\"><b>C. S. Lewis, Mere Christianity, Book III, chapter 9<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will learn, or use, the name of a neighbor, cashier, or server today.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will be the first to greet, and I will be swift to hear and slow to speak (James 1:19).<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will look for one practical way to help a neighbor: carrying, lending, mowing, watching.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will let my speech be \u201calway with grace, seasoned with salt\u201d (Colossians 4:6).<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will be ready to give a reason for my hope, \u201cwith meekness and fear\u201d (1 Peter 3:15).<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will pray for one person who does not yet know Christ.<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #000080;\"><b>4. Esteem Others Better Than Yourself: The Highway, the Line, and the Errand<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #800000;\"><b>Philippians 2:3\u20134, 14 \u00b7 Galatians 5:22\u201323 \u00b7 Proverbs 16:32<\/b><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Few places test sanctification like an interstate on-ramp at rush hour or a long line at the motor vehicle office. Paul\u2019s instruction to \u201cesteem other better than themselves\u201d (Philippians 2:3) is not suspended behind the steering wheel. Self-control, the last-named fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:23), is what turns an inconvenience into a testimony. Dennis Rainey lists among his essentials of the Christian life the call to obey God rather than our cravings (1 Corinthians 9:24\u201327). Impatience, after all, is only a craving for our own way, a little sooner. The benefit is peace: \u201cHe that is slow to anger is better than the mighty\u201d (Proverbs 16:32).<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201c<i>Our passions must be subordinated to the cross.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\">\u2014 <span style=\"font-size: small;\"><b>Dennis Rainey, \u201c7 Essentials for the Christian Life,\u201d Cru (reprinted from FamilyLife)<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will drive as though the car ahead of me carries someone for whom Christ died.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will let someone merge, and I will not answer rudeness with rudeness.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will keep the speed limit and arrive with a calm spirit rather than a stolen minute.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will sincerely thank the clerk, the mechanic, and the delivery driver.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will wait in line without murmuring (Philippians 2:14).<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will return the cart, pick up the litter, and leave each place better than I found it.<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #000080;\"><b>5. Bear Ye One Another\u2019s Burdens: Meeting the Needs of Fellow Believers<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #800000;\"><b>Galatians 6:2, 10 \u00b7 1 John 3:17\u201318 \u00b7 2 Corinthians 9:7<\/b><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Paul tells the churches to do good unto all men, \u201cespecially unto them who are of the household of faith\u201d (Galatians 6:10). John presses the point: whoever has this world\u2019s goods, sees a brother in need, and shuts up his compassion, \u201chow dwelleth the love of God in him?\u201d (1 John 3:17). Burden-bearing takes many shapes: a grocery card for a family between jobs, a ride to a medical appointment, a meal after a funeral, an hour of simply listening. Graham called believers to let love be the ruling principle of life, and Rainey\u2019s essentials include serving God rather than ourselves (Isaiah 6:8). The benefit flows both ways. The body is strengthened, and the cheerful giver (2 Corinthians 9:7) finds that generosity enlarges the heart far more than it shrinks the wallet.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201c<i>The first service that one owes to others \u2026 consists in listening to them.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\">\u2014 <span style=\"font-size: small;\"><b>Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Life Together (1939)<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will check on one believer who is grieving, sick, unemployed, or alone.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will give, as I am able, to a known need, cheerfully and not under compulsion.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will listen fully before I offer advice.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will pray <i>with<\/i> someone, not merely <i>for<\/i> them.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will offer practical help: a meal, a ride, a repair, an afternoon of childcare.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will keep confidences and protect the dignity of those I help (Matthew 6:3\u20134).<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #000080;\"><b>6. Be Not Conformed: In the World but Not of It<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #800000;\"><b>John 17:15\u201318 \u00b7 Romans 12:2 \u00b7 James 1:27 \u00b7 Philippians 4:8<\/b><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Jesus prayed not that the Father would take His disciples out of the world, but that He would keep them from the evil one (John 17:15). The Christian is to be neither a hermit nor a chameleon. Ligonier Ministries points to Daniel, who served Babylon with skill yet refused to compromise, and concludes that believers should neither reject nor uncritically accept their culture. Fredericksburg Christian School\u2019s guide to worldview urges believers to weigh films, music, novels, and news against Scripture, keeping what agrees with biblical truth and rejecting what does not.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201c<i>Developing a Christian worldview doesn\u2019t mean withdrawing from culture.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\">\u2014 <span style=\"font-size: small;\"><b>Fredericksburg Christian School, \u201cComprehensive Guide to Understanding and Developing a Christian Worldview\u201d<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Former cold-case detective J. Warner Wallace offers a test worth carrying all day. Being physically present in a worldly setting is not the danger, he argues; it may even be an opportunity. The danger begins when that setting becomes a source of instruction for how we think and live. When a show, a feed, or a friendship starts doing that, it is time to step back. The benefit of such vigilance is discernment: the renewed mind is able to \u201cprove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God\u201d (Romans 12:2).<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201c\u2026<i>less concerned with my point of location than \u2026 with my source of information.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\">\u2014 <span style=\"font-size: small;\"><b>J. Warner Wallace, Cold Case Christianity<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u201c<i>Christians live in the world, but it is not their ultimate home.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\">\u2014 <span style=\"font-size: small;\"><b>Ligonier Ministries, \u201cChristianity and Culture,\u201d Ligonier Guides<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will measure today\u2019s entertainment by Philippians 4:8 before I press play.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will notice when a program, feed, or conversation begins shaping my values, and step away.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will engage unbelieving friends with warmth, without adopting their worldview.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will spend more minutes in God\u2019s Word today than in my news feed.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will keep myself \u201cunspotted from the world\u201d in speech, humor, and habit (James 1:27).<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will remember that \u201cour conversation is in heaven\u201d (Philippians 3:20).<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #000080;\"><b>7. A Friend Loveth at All Times: Christ-Centered Friendship<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #800000;\"><b>Proverbs 17:17; 27:6, 17 \u00b7 Ephesians 4:15 \u00b7 John 15:13<\/b><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>The Greek <i>philia<\/i>, the love of friendship, is a gift of God, and Mission Hills Church anchors it in Proverbs 17:17: \u201cA friend loveth at all times.\u201d Shannon Kay McCoy of the Biblical Counseling Coalition describes gospel-centered friendships as centered on Christ, redemptive in offering forgiveness and restoration, and sacrificial in their demands on our time and emotions. Like a garden, she says, they must be tended, and honesty within them should come with humility and kindness. Leslie Ludy of <em>Set Apart Ministries<\/em> adds a guardrail many friendships lack: the godly friend points the other person to Jesus rather than becoming that person\u2019s first refuge. The benefit is iron sharpening iron (Proverbs 27:17). Friends formed this way leave each other more like Christ.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201c<i>A gospel-centered friend drives others to God and not to herself.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\">\u2014 <span style=\"font-size: small;\"><b>Shannon Kay McCoy, \u201cCultivating Gospel-Centered Friendships,\u201d Biblical Counseling Coalition<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u201c\u2026<i>the absent must be safe with us.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\">\u2014 <span style=\"font-size: small;\"><b>Amy Carmichael, as cited by Leslie Ludy, \u201cHow to Be a Christ-Centered Friend,\u201d Set Apart Ministries<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #800000;\"><b>Guidelines for Casual Friendship<\/b><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will point a friend toward Christ rather than making myself indispensable.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will refuse gossip. The absent will be safe with me.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will speak a hard truth in love when it is needed, and receive one humbly (Proverbs 27:6).<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will widen my circle so that no one feels shut out.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will choose close companions who sharpen my walk (Proverbs 13:20; 1 Corinthians 15:33).<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will keep friendships with the opposite sex transparent, guarded, and honoring to any spouse involved (1 Timothy 5:1\u20132).<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will forgive quickly and keep no record of wrongs (1 Corinthians 13:5).<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #000080;\"><b>8. Flee, Follow, and Wait: Romantic Relationships That Honor God<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #800000;\"><b>2 Corinthians 6:14 \u00b7 1 Thessalonians 4:3\u20135 \u00b7 1 Corinthians 6:18\u201320 \u00b7 Song of Solomon 2:7<\/b><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Mission Hills Church observes that romantic love is often avoided in church settings, even though the Bible celebrates it within God\u2019s design for marriage (Song of Solomon 8:6\u20137). Because romance is a good gift, it needs firm guardrails. Desiring God frames dating as discernment toward marriage rather than practice for it, since intimacy is safest within marriage. Frank Powell of <em>ChurchLeaders<\/em> urges believers to date with a trajectory toward marriage and not to date non-Christians. Transformation Christian Fellowship adds five practical principles: seek God before seeking a person, value character over attraction, communicate with grace, share spiritual alignment (\u201cCan two walk together, except they be agreed?\u201d Amos 3:3), and stay accountable to a church community. Three times the Song of Solomon charges, \u201cstir not up, nor awake my love, till he please\u201d (2:7). The benefit is a love that is protected before marriage and therefore strong within it.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201c<i>Pursue clarity, and postpone intimacy.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\">\u2014 <span style=\"font-size: small;\"><b>Desiring God, \u201cThe Great Prize in Christian Dating\u201d<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u201c<i>Dating with a trajectory towards marriage means dating with a purpose.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\">\u2014 <span style=\"font-size: small;\"><b>Frank Powell, \u201c10 Christian Dating Principles That Could Transform Lives,\u201d ChurchLeaders<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u201c\u2026<i>a healthy romantic relationship must be rooted in God first.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\">\u2014 <span style=\"font-size: small;\"><b>Transformation Christian Fellowship, \u201cBuilding a God-Centered Romantic Relationship\u201d<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #800000;\"><b>Guidelines for Romantic Involvement<\/b><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will date only a believer whose love for Christ is evident, not merely professed (2 Corinthians 6:14).<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will date with a purpose, discerning marriage, not passing the time.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will set physical boundaries in advance and keep them when emotions run high (1 Thessalonians 4:3\u20135).<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will value character over chemistry: patience, faithfulness, self-control (Galatians 5:22\u201323).<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will invite trusted believers (parents, pastors, mature friends) to speak into the relationship.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will avoid settings of isolation that invite temptation, and flee youthful lusts (2 Timothy 2:22).<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will ask honestly whether each of us is growing closer to Christ because of the other.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> If married, I will guard my eyes, my screen, and my heart for my spouse alone (Proverbs 5:18; Matthew 5:28).<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #000080;\"><b>9. Rejoice Evermore: Living Above Your Circumstances<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #800000;\"><b>1 Thessalonians 5:16\u201318 \u00b7 Habakkuk 3:17\u201318 \u00b7 Philippians 4:11\u201313<\/b><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Graham\u2019s final guideline was to live above your circumstances, and Rainey closes his essentials with the call to worship God rather than comfort, pointing to the prophet Habakkuk. Paul learned \u201cin whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content\u201d (Philippians 4:11). Joy that does not depend on circumstance may be the most persuasive apologetic a Christian ever offers, because the watching world has no explanation for it.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201c<i>Although the fig tree shall not blossom, neither shall fruit be in the vines \u2026 Yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will joy in the God of my salvation.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\">\u2014 <span style=\"font-size: small;\"><b>Habakkuk 3:17\u201318 (KJV)<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will give thanks in everything, naming at least three specific mercies (1 Thessalonians 5:18).<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will choose worship over complaint when plans collapse.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will not let a bad report or a bad day redefine the goodness of God.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will end the day by reviewing these boxes, thanking God for each one checked and confessing each one missed.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2610<\/span> I will lie down in peace, trusting that His mercies are new every morning (Psalm 4:8; Lamentations 3:22\u201323).<\/p>\n<p align=\"center\"><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2767 \u2726 \u2767<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #000080;\"><b>The Checklist and the Cross<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>No believer will check every box every day. The point is not a perfect page but a turned heart. Each empty box drives us back to the One who kept the law perfectly on our behalf, and each checked box is evidence that His Spirit is at work in us. Graham reminded his readers that temptation is not sin; yielding is. The same grace that forgives the yielding also strengthens us to resist it tomorrow.<\/p>\n<p>So tomorrow, before the coffee cools, open the Book and pick up the pen. Then step out the door as an ambassador of another King, into the break room, onto the freeway, past the neighbor\u2019s fence, and toward the friend who needs a call. Ordinary days are where faithfulness is proved, and with God\u2019s help, yours can be one of them.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201c<i>Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\">\u2014 <span style=\"font-size: small;\"><b>1 Corinthians 10:31 (KJV)<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p align=\"center\"><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2767 \u2726 \u2767<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\" align=\"center\"><a href=\"https:\/\/novus2.com\/righteouscause\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/11\/Before_the_Coffee_Cools.pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Download this PDF<\/strong><\/a> and print it out at home for use in your daily devotions.<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #000080;\"><b>SOURCES<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\"><strong>Billy Graham Library.<\/strong><\/span> \u201cIn His Own Words: Billy Graham on Living the Christian Life.\u201d December 31, 2012. https:\/\/billygrahamlibrary.org\/in-his-own-words-billy-graham-on-living-the-christian-life\/<br \/>\n<span style=\"color: #6f7073;\"><strong><span style=\"font-size: small;\">Bonhoeffer, Dietrich. <\/span><\/strong><\/span><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><i>Life Together<\/i><span style=\"font-size: small;\">. 1939. Translated by John W. Doberstein. New York: Harper &amp; Row, 1954.<br \/>\n<span style=\"font-family: 'Liberation Serif', serif; color: #6f7073;\"><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><strong>Brother Lawrence (Nicholas Herman).<\/strong> <span style=\"font-size: small;\"><i>The Practice of the Presence of God<\/i><span style=\"font-size: small;\">. 17th century; public-domain English translation.<br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\"><strong>Desiring God.<\/strong> <\/span>\u201cThe Great Prize in Christian Dating: Pursue Clarity and Postpone Intimacy.\u201d Byline: President &amp; CEO, Desiring God. https:\/\/www.desiringgod.org\/articles\/the-great-prize-in-christian-dating<br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\"><strong>Fredericksburg Christian School.<\/strong> <\/span>\u201cComprehensive Guide to Understanding and Developing a Christian Worldview.\u201d https:\/\/fredericksburgchristian.com\/blog\/comprehensive-guide-to-understanding-and-developing-a-christian-worldview\/<br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\"><strong>Graham, Billy.<\/strong> <\/span>\u201c10 Guidelines for Christian Living.\u201d Billy Graham Library, January 10, 2014. Excerpted from <span style=\"font-size: small;\"><i>Peace with God<\/i><span style=\"font-size: small;\"> (1953; rev. 1984). https:\/\/billygrahamlibrary.org\/10-guidelines-for-christian-living\/<br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\"><strong>Kuyper, Abraham.<\/strong><\/span> \u201cSphere Sovereignty.\u201d 1880. In <span style=\"font-size: small;\"><i>Abraham Kuyper: A Centennial Reader<\/i><span style=\"font-size: small;\">, edited by James D. Bratt. Grand Rapids: Eerdmans, 1998.<br \/>\n<span style=\"color: #6f7073;\"><strong><span style=\"font-size: small;\">Lewis, C. S. <span style=\"font-size: small;\"><i>Mere Christianity<\/i><\/span><\/span><\/strong><\/span><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\"><strong>.<\/strong><\/span> London: Geoffrey Bles, 1952. Book III, chapter 9, \u201cCharity.\u201d<br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\"><strong>Ligonier Ministries.<\/strong> <\/span>\u201cChristianity and Culture.\u201d Ligonier Guides. https:\/\/learn.ligonier.org\/guides\/christianity-and-culture<br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\"><strong>Ludy, Leslie.<\/strong><\/span> \u201cHow to Be a Christ-Centered Friend.\u201d Set Apart Ministries. https:\/\/setapart.org\/how-be-christ-centered-friend\/<br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\"><strong>McCoy, Shannon Kay.<\/strong><\/span> \u201cCultivating Gospel-Centered Friendships.\u201d Biblical Counseling Coalition, April 2, 2014. https:\/\/www.biblicalcounselingcoalition.org\/2014\/04\/02\/cultivating-gospel-centered-friendships\/<br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\"><strong>Mission Hills Church.<\/strong><\/span> \u201c5 Types of Love in the Bible: Understanding How God Defines Love in Relationships.\u201d https:\/\/www.missionhills.org\/5-types-of-love-in-the-bible-understanding-how-god-defines-love-in-relationships\/<br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\"><strong>OpenBible.info.<\/strong><\/span> \u201cWhat Does the Bible Say About Daily Christian Living?\u201d https:\/\/www.openbible.info\/topics\/daily_christian_living<br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\"><strong>Powell, Frank.<\/strong><\/span> \u201c10 Christian Dating Principles That Could Transform Lives.\u201d ChurchLeaders. https:\/\/churchleaders.com\/outreach-missions\/outreach-missions-articles\/272968-10-christian-dating-principles-that-could-transform-lives.html\/2<br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\"><strong>Rainey, Dennis.<\/strong> <\/span>\u201c7 Essentials for the Christian Life.\u201d Cru, reprinted from FamilyLife. https:\/\/www.cru.org\/us\/en\/communities\/families\/7-essentials-for-christian-life.html<br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\"><strong>Transformation Christian Fellowship.<\/strong> <\/span>\u201cBuilding a God-Centered Romantic Relationship.\u201d https:\/\/www.transformationchristianfellowship.org\/post\/building-a-god-centered-romantic-relationship<br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\"><strong>Verse By Verse Ministry International (VBVMI Staff).<\/strong> <\/span>\u201cHow Do We Live in the World But Not of the World?\u201d https:\/\/versebyverseministry.org\/bible-answers\/how-do-we-live-in-the-world-but-not-of-the-world<br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\"><strong>Wallace, J. Warner.<\/strong><\/span> \u201cChristian Worldview: What Does It Mean to Be \u2018In the World\u2019 but Not \u2018Of the World\u2019?\u201d Cold Case Christianity. https:\/\/coldcasechristianity.com\/writings\/christian-worldview-what-does-it-mean-to-be-in-the-world-but-not-of-the-world\/<br \/>\n<span style=\"color: #6f7073;\"><strong><span style=\"font-size: small;\">Scripture quotations are from the King James Version (public domain).<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p align=\"center\"><span style=\"color: #7a1f2b;\">\u2767 \u2726 \u2767<\/span><\/p>\n<p align=\"center\"><span style=\"color: #6f7073;\"><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><i>Colophon: Researched and drafted with the assistance of Claude (Anthropic) as a research collaborator; all editorial decisions rest with the author.<\/i><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The Preflight Inspection of the Soul \u2767 \u2726 \u2767 Lost by Inches Most Christians do not lose their witness in a single dramatic fall. 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